Facing The Truth About Sexual Abuse

Jeremiah 17:9 “"The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?”

I am glad women are speaking up and that they now feel empowered to do so. Men have always had the power and they have always gotten away with their inappropriate behavior. This is not just in the entertainment and political industries, it can happen in the Church. I know personally of women who have been harassed sexually and were abused repeatedly in the Christian workplace. Women working for ministries never felt they could make an allegation against a colleague or especially against an employer because they needed their jobs. Men who claimed to emulate the character of Christ and were in leadership positions often were the worst offenders of sexual abuse. I don’t want to make the Christian workplace out to be worse than it is, but we can never overlook the least likely places where this kind of behavior takes place.

However, talking about the guilty will only expose the problem, and unless there is a moral shift in culture I don’t believe much will be resolved. We have seen where racism has been exposed but the struggle against it continues to be a problem today. If this trend of exposing the abuse to women is to have a lasting affect, men will have to change. Men will need to take responsibility for their behavior and know that it is not only wrong; it is a crime to abuse someone sexually. Even then some men will continue to be sexual predators because it is in their nature. Now, many people reading this may disagree with me, but men are easily aroused and stimulated by even the thought of a sexual encounter.  They also have society on their side - at least how society has dismissed men’s “boys will be boys” behavior. Psychologists believe men can change and it starts with changing the way men see women. Now, I have no argument with any of this, because I believe the problem lies primarily with men and how they use their influence to manipulate women.

Yet to simply say men are the problem is like saying, “drunk driving kills people.” We all know drinking and driving is harmful behavior, but yet it hasn’t gone away. We all know racism is bad for everyone, yet racism still exists, and in some cases it’s gone viral. The problem of sexual abuse exists, but our attempts to find solutions in training, education, and social re-engineering of men will never solve this problem. The problem of racism, gender violence, sexual abuse, prostitution, abortion, drug addiction, hatred, murder, and divorce, is because of our heart. Our hearts are sick. There is no cure for what ails the human race because only God can cure and heal our hearts and our land.

Here is a life lesson about the heart from my own life. I am in shape, I exercise daily, I eat only high quality foods, and I don’t abuse my body with drugs, nor do I deny it sleep. Yet on a recent visit to the Doctor it was discovered I have heart disease and will need an operation. The operation will replace the flow of my main arteries around my heart because they are all clogged. I was shocked to hear this news, and when I questioned the Doctor about how this could happen because my lifestyle was clean and healthy, he just smiled and said, “You can’t overcome genetics.” 

So I am scheduled for quadruple bypass surgery next week. I tell you that because this blog will be missing for a few weeks while I recover, but more importantly is the lesson about “genetics.” You can do all you can to live right, think right, and be right, but the genetics of sin is always nipping at your heels.  Unless men and women deal with the genetics of sin, they will always fall prey to sinful behavior. As a society we can do more education and training, we can even re-engineer the way men think, but at the end of the day if you don’t deal with the genetics of sin you will fail in changing sexual abuse. America is suffering with heart disease, and until we turn our lives back to God, we will never see this disease go away, in fact it will eventually kill our nation.

The heart has to change, or it will die by its own disease.

Luke 6:45 “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.

Matthew 15:19 “For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander.”

Keeping it honest and truthful…K




The Mirror Between Washington and Hollywood

What is trending today? Sexual accusations have been in the news the past few months. It started with Harvey Weinstein, the Hollywood producer who was accused of sexual abuse, and then most recently Senator Al Franken has had his past come back to haunt him. We hear more and more of these powerful or famous people getting accused of unwanted sexual advances and I am sure these who have been accused are just a few sacrificial lambs. The power of influence will always create privilege and that privilege will take advantage of people. Powerful men without character and without a moral compass are potential predators. That may be strong for some of you, but as a man, there is no question in my mind that men are by nature predators. Why do I say this?

 Men are much more visual predators than women and will fantasize about their sexual encounters with women. These kinds of stimulus can create the basis for sexual fantasy to turn into reality when the opportunity presents itself. The only way a man will manage fantasy, urges and motivations, is to have a moral basis for his temptations. Every man is tempted more often than a woman, and can and will act out his temptation. So if all of this is true, then men, who are rich, powerful, and famous, have an advantage to lure women into their sick world.

Let’s look at Bill Cosby whose escapades involved drugging women and molesting them. So what was it about Bill’s fantasy that drove him to take advantage of a drugged woman? As much as that disgusts most of you, there are many Bill Cosbys in Hollywood and Washington D.C. - we are only hearing about a few of them in the news today.

I would say that most rich men in either Hollywood or Washington have used their influence to solicit sexual favors of some kind. The only way a man of influence refrains himself from living in sexual gratification is if he has a moral compass. Do you think I am teasing you with facts?

 Eric Anderson from the Washington Post writes:

Cheating and affairs are more common among the rich and less common in conservative cultures. Studies have found that the more money and celebrity men have, the more likely they are to cheat:

It has been reported:

  • In over 1/3 of marriages, one or both partners admit to cheating.
  •  22% of men say that they've cheated on their significant other.
  • 14% of women admit to cheating on their significant other.
  • 36% of men and women admit to having an affair with a coworker.
  • 17% of men and women admit to having an affair with a sister-in-law or brother-in-law.
  • People who have cheated before are 350% more likely to cheat again.
  • Affairs are most likely to occur two years into a marriage.
  • 35% of men and women admit to cheating while on a business trip.
  • 9% of men admit they might have an affair to get back at a spouse.
  • 14% of women admit they might have an affair to get back at a spouse.
  • 10% of affairs begin online.
  • 40% of the time online affairs turn into real life affairs. 

Now add the power of influence and wealth to the mix and you have a sexual cocktail that is intoxicating and lethal.

So when you question my assumption that the rich and the powerful in either Washington or Hollywood are guilty of unspeakable immoral corruption, you have to be naïve.

The power of influence and money corrupts the moral character of most people, and it is only those who believe in God and know that He sees every action and desire will have a chance to resist the temptation fostered in these corrupt cities.

So as we see the sacrificial lambs of O’Reilly, Franken, Clinton, Ailes, Cosby, Weinstein, Weiner, Spacey, Toback, Affleck, Bush Sr., Helperin, just to name a few who are in media, entertainment, and politics, represent only those who have now been accused.  

I know you don’t need to have a lecture on this by me, but we know that these men who are accused of sexual indiscretions are only the tip of the iceberg.

It is just proof that our nation has moved far from away from its godly beginning.

Matthew 15:19 “For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander.”

Keeping it honest and Truthful….K



The Hypocrites are in Charge

John 8:7 They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, "All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!"

The allegations that former Alabama Supreme Court Justice Roy Moore molested a 14-year-old when he was in his thirties came to light only 4-1/2 weeks before the election. Really? Now politicians and journalists must think the American public is stupid, and if they believe this hogwash then they are stupid. We know the American public has some serious issues with being informed because they only way they get their knowledge is the Internet. I remember news reports telling people how dangerous Israel was just before my first visit there in 2007.  When I got to Israel I found the exact opposite, in fact, I discovered I was safer there than in my hometown of Minneapolis.

This isn’t about justice; it is about dirty politics to ruin a man’s chance to further his ambitions or career. This is a liberal vs. conse
rvative issue and nothing more. However what we also have is the violation of the 9th commandment:

You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor”

So we have two violations against God’s Word in this story.

No one is without sin, so why are we trying to accuse someone of something no one can prove that allegedly happened over forty years ago. Why wasn’t this an issue when the Judge was being appointed to the position of the Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court? He is controversial because he is a Christian and takes a stand for Biblical values, and because of it he is considered unacceptable as a representative for Government.

Secondly when we lie and make up false accusations to cast doubt upon a person, that is a direct violation of God’s commandment on how to treat other people. When a political opponent uses the tactic of lying in order to move their agenda forward, they are not worthy of even being in the game. In fact, these false accusations should be punishable by law and they should be prosecuted.

The laws in most states have provisions for slander or defamation of character.

There are the two main types of defamation cases: libel and slander. Both involve harmful, false statements that cause damage to someone’s reputation, but libel requires that the statement be in writing or somehow “published.” With slander, all that is required is that the defamatory statement be spoken to a third party (someone other than you).

These allegations need to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law as an example so others are fully aware of the consequences before being used by a political entity to smear a candidate that is running for office.

Going back to the hypocrite status of trying to dig up dirt on people who have been faithfully serving the public for more than forty years, I would like to see this standard placed on every member of Congress. There are many people serving in high positions in our government that have some kind of allegation against their character. The Washington “swamp” is no different than what is happening in the Hollywood “swamp” of sexual indiscretions. Let’s find out how many Congress people have had an affair, or any sexual indiscretion during the course of their political career. Let’s be honest - any indiscretion is lying and cheating, and people don’t want things to be known because it shows how deviant their own character really is. So don’t go sanctimonious on us Washington by excoriating a man like Judge Moore because of allegations. Washington has had its own evil character issues for decades, yet America looks the other way. We have had immoral, deviant Presidents on both sides of the aisle, yet history forgets it’s fallen leaders.

The Bible says that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, so no one is exempt from sinful behavior. In fact, sinful behavior from Washington is what gave us Roe vs. Wade, a law that gives license to kill the unborn. America will be judged for violating the 6th commandment, thou shall not murder. That judgment is underway in America…but that is another blog. Legislators who do not have a conscience directed by God will give us laws and government policies that violate God’s principles. So yes, all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Judge Roy Moore may not be a perfect man, but he deserves more dignity than what he is getting from a proven record of being a man of convictions.

May God have mercy upon our hypocritical nation!

Keeping it honest and truthful….K



Keeping the Right Perspective

I realize that I write quite often about how our lives abandon God both in and outside of the Church. It is fairly obvious where the culture is at as it violates the principles and values of the Judeo-Christian God both in government policy and in the general direction of the culture. It is, however, even more painful to see how the Church has often strayed from a Biblical worldview. Many people think because they have a form of religious experience or practice that all is right between them and God. This is just not true. 

2 Timothy 3:5 “They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!”

Religious practice may find you doing good things for others, but without the surrender of your life to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord, you are as lost as the worst heathen on earth. Keeping the right perspective is important as you grow as a Christian.

  1. Keeping the right perspective must cultivate the idea that Jesus is coming back to set up His earthly kingdom. Jesus will return as a Jew, to set up His Kingdom from Jerusalem and nothing will prevent Him from ruling the entire earth. It is then important to realize from this perspective that Israel will play an important role as the center from which Jesus will reign.
    John 14:3 “When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am.”
  2. Keeping the right perspective is living your life under the shadow of the Word of God so that nothing you say, or what you think, or what you do, will happen before it goes through the filter of what the Bible teaches. God’s Word has the wisdom and the power to change the human heart. It also teaches you to surrender to the Holy Spirit, and puts to death the ego that usually gives a wrong perspective to leaders who use it to be served and not to serve. Remember Jesus said the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven is the one who serves others.

    Matthew 7:24 "Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock.
  3. Keeping the right perspective is part of the process of cultivating a good relationship with other believers who have devoted their lives to Christ and His Kingdom. Notice I did not say church, I said believers who have devoted lives to Christ. I have attended many churches since my early days of accepting Christ, and have found a huge disparity between what some churches teach and what the Bible is really all about. Leadership in the local church is critical to the spiritual strength of any church, along with a congregation who is willing to engage in the work of the gospel.  Many churches have good preachers, but have a lousy return by the congregation to engage and practice the gospel in the culture around them. Furthermore, there are leaders in some churches who believe things that are so far away from Biblical standards that they are not worth attending. It is so important that you surround yourself with people who believe that the gospel is to serve others with the message of the cross. This is a concept that is slowly being replaced in many ministries today.

    Ephesians 5:21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
  4. Keeping the right perspective means that you will suffer being misunderstood as you hold to Biblical truth. Jesus told us this would be the case but many of us opt out for a silent or non-combatant position about our faith in Christ. Many of us do not want to fight with anyone about what we believe so we remain neutral about what goes on in culture about lifestyle, morals or beliefs. It has been reported that there are 400,000 churches in America, both Protestant and Catholic. Now what would happen if we all believed in the Bible as it is written? No catechism, no theological treatise, just faith in Jesus as the Messiah/Savior and a trust in His word? Do you realize there will be no doctrine in heaven, nothing will divide us or separate us through the means of denominational creeds? 

    John 16:33 “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world."
  5. Keeping the right perspective on what it means to be a Christian in an unchristian world. The pressure is on every believer to accept everything from a transgender lifestyle to redefining marriage. Standards are changing and we need to know how to live as a Christian in a world of differences. It appears at times that the culture seems to be winning more converts than the Church and that creates a society that drifts further away from the mindset of cross. Even the way we talk in church has shifted away from our once strong convictions about life, to a more relaxed understanding.  The intensity about heaven and hell is no longer a big emphasis as it once was, and a more self-improvement, ‘let’s make this life count now’ seems to be the mantra. Most believers have wavered on what it means to live in a godly perspective, and most do not understand what a life of holiness really means.  Things have changed in our world, and no doubt those changes have affected how we live out the Christian life. 

John 15:18 “If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.”

It is critical to keep the right perspective as you grow in becoming more like Christ.

Keeping it honest and truthful….K








When People Forget God

As we all know another shooting and another 26 people are dead because someone had some emotional issues with a former family member. President Trump said it correctly; it is an evil and mental illness that is creating these mass shootings. It is not the guns, because evil people will find illegal guns, will find bombs or cars or whatever can be used to kill innocent people. Immediately the politicians want us to be sidetracked onto an issue that is not going to solve the problem with mass shootings because the issue is deeper and wider than guns. What you won’t hear anywhere is the real reason we have had the collateral damage of innocent bystanders losing their lives. According to CBS news: Since the Pulse nightclub shooting in Orlando 17 months ago, there have been 555 mass shootings as the FBI defines them: four or more people shot at once. Approximately 689 people have been killed, and nearly 2,700 wounded. 

When a nation forgets God, God forgets that nation and it becomes subject to the curses described in Deuteronomy 28.

This is the real reason America is experiencing these mass shootings, and it is just a matter of time before one of these mass shootings will show up in one our neighborhoods.

Let’s look at a summary of some of the obvious curses that will result as people abandon God: 


  • Food supply
  • Madness
  • Mental confusion
  • Blindness
  • Defeated before our enemies
  • Sickness that is not curable
  • Foreign residents will rise above you
  • Family distress 


Some may say this is only directed towards Israel because she had a covenant with God. That is the first application for these verses, but a nation that once knew the truth of the scriptures as America did, will also be subjected to the same ramifications of a nation who forgets God.

You may not like to admit any of this, but what is happening to innocent people in our day is a sign, a sign we are neglecting to acknowledge. Something is wrong, we all know it, but we are looking to the wrong solutions for our answers. Pastor and writer Tom Parrish has some further thoughts on this.

Within an hour of the shooting several Democrats were on TV calling for more stringent gun control when in fact Kelly had been denied a legal gun permit several times by the local Sheriff’s office. Mental health officials said that someone should have recognized Kelly’s anti-social behavior and intervened. As a pastor for forty years, having worked with many troubled and dangerous people, I have discovered that “what we should have done, or what we did do” is always the Monday morning quarterback. It is extremely hard to determine the inner hostility, evil and wickedness of another person prior to such a horrible act. Still others were speculating on his mental health as though Kelly was a victim of his own dysfunctional brain. On and on and on we go, where this will stop, nobody knows!


The secular left, science, too many in the medical community, politicians and even some pastors have dismissed the Lordship of Jesus Christ and pushed him with mockery and derision to the sidelines. Why do we believe we can do that and still have a civil society? Have we forgotten what the Word of God makes a promise in Deuteronomy 28:15-25? In these verses are the warnings to Israel and warnings to us today. When our leaders and we reject the one true God and seek to be god ourselves, we bring down curses and wrath from heaven.

Pastor Tom is right, let’s get real with what is going on in America. Stop all the baloney about guns and get down to the issue of America’s abandonment of God. This violence is a spiritual problem so why can’t we have that discussion? The reason for this is simple: “ if it is defined as a spiritual problem, then the solution to it is also spiritual.” If we leave it to being a societal problem, then it is the government’s job to control it. It is much easier then to legislate laws than it is to pray to God and have Him change me.

And by the way, I recently went by a church in my neighborhood where a sign by their front entrance read: All Guns Banned Here!

I think these people need to rethink that idea in light of Sutherland Springs Texas. I will not attend a church unless I know they have security, or at least allow me to carry my permitted gun. 

Keeping it honest and truthful….K





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